Nov 4, 2020
You know what’s
sometimes really weird about trying to find a solution to our
Is that we tend to hear the same
things over and over again. I felt this way once when I was really
looking for ways that I could get more things done without simply
adding more things to my day.
I realized that I wasn’t making time for important
people in my life as I should.
It was really a wake-up call
when my daughter said to me at dinner one day, “Mommy, why are you
working all the time?” Truth be told, I was eating my spaghetti
while thinking about the list of things that I still had to do when
she said that. I wasn’t really paying attention to her chipper
chatter about the 12th drawing she made this week.
And I knew it was a matter of
time for her to notice.
Worse, I felt like I was only half-heartedly clocking in
BOTH my work and parenting.
Which means that NEITHER of the
two things get proper attention.
And yet, when I look for ways to
get out of this cycle, I keep hearing people say things
- Do a checklist, a pros and cons
list, and scratch them off. Are we building a grocery list or trying to
create an impact in the world?
- Create a calendar, stick to it,
and set reminders. Done
that, and let’s face it—it never works.
- Always add value at every
turn. But who’s got the
- Wake up at 4:30 AM then
meditate 3 times a day. Again … where can I find the
- Follow famous people’s morning
routines. Yeah, you mean
I need to buy a $40 coffee to get jazzed up? No,
To be fair, I’m not saying no to
all of these. I believe they have a time and place. But to rely on
them to create massive changes in our lives is a bit
Take the Value-Add advice you
keep hearing. The exhausting thing about this is that no one
answers how we can possibly have enough time to
keep adding value?
Plus, when our focus is on
adding, and not on taking things off of the shoulders of others
(and our own)—we’ve already lost.
And in doing so, we’ve lost
Which is why I talk about finding
ways to become invaluable, to get massive leaps, and make a big
difference in this world—with small steps.
There are some ways that you can
get more done TODAY even if you don’t always feel like
- Think in terms of legacies. Not
lists. Yes, even when
you’re looking at your day. Ask, what is the ONE thing you want to
leave behind when you’re done with your day? And focus on
that ONE thing. Of course it’s great if you get more things done.
But if you think of some of the great public figures you follow,
usually you know them for ONE memorable, impactful things. Not one
- Look for what can fly first. Then the figures will
follow. Before I started my business, watching talented
people give up on their dreams, as I always say, feels very much
like watching your favorite character in a story die an unnecessary
death. It’s painful to watch. Surprisingly, this tends to happen when you’re
not finding small wins that can help you fly and you’re focusing
instead on the figures. Part of living an extraordinarily
meaningful life in ordinary ways is to lean on something totally
underrated: momentum. Find ways to fly first, catch momentum, and
other things will follow.
- Say no early and yes later. This is HUGE. People always think of
opportunities in the context of getting to YES fast. Anyone who has
had massive success know that this is not always the case.
But when you intentionally say yes
and no for the right reasons, you’ve gifted yourself hours and
hours of time to do things your way. And do this once you’ve
decided that it’s not for you. This will bring you peace of mind
earlier and help you sleep better at night.
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